Premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems men are suffering from.If it happens frequently, his partner may be left unsatisfied.
Most men find it very difficult to discuss it with their partner or with a doctor. However, it should not be this way;there is nothing to be ashamed of. If more men were willing to talk about their concern, it would be easier to accept, knowing that they are not alone.

What is considered premature ejaculation?

The average male takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he reaches an orgasm. According to the technical definition, it is ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes, or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner. Some doctors define the time period as "reaching an orgasm before your partner does".

However, most men (and women!)merely find PE a considerable irritation.
In most cases it makes people unhappy and frustrated.
And in severe cases PE can threaten or even ruin a marriage - simply because it spoils the sex lives of both partners.

It's a condition that makes them come very soon after they enter their partner - say, after only a minute or two, so neither party gets a lot of satisfaction.
Sometimes, the condition is so bad the man can't have sex because he ejaculates before he can get into the vagina. This can be devastating for a man's self-confidence. And it can be hugely frustrating and annoying for his partner – especially if she wants to get pregnant.

PE is usually stated in terms of time because it is the only way to measure and compare. The issue, however, is really about control of the ejaculatory process and releasing when you feel ready. Men are usually more upset about the lack of influence over when they finish.

One man feels proud to last 5 minutes, while other men complain of PE when they come after 20 minutes!
From the point of view of reproduction, early ejaculation is not a big problem. Longer lasting sex serves no known genetic function.
It is something that we must learn by excercising a lot!

First, one must understand what is happening to his body when he ejaculates.
Orgasm consists of two stages.
The first begins with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the penis. This contracts and releases its fluids, along with the contents of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra.

The second phase occurs when the pelvic muscle contracts strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure. Did you know that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm and vice versa?

How to cure premature ejaculation?

The good news is that it is a problem that is highly curable, providing the man is willing to get help and invest the time and effort needed. It is believed that 80% to 90% of men are able to learn better control through therapy.

First of all, you have to become familiar with yourself.
Be comfortable with your body, its sensations and the feelings leading up to orgasm. You should learn and be able to predict when you reach the "point of no return".
This will prevent it from creeping up on you and taking you by surprise.
This will also help you do what is necessary to prevent you from reaching an early orgasm.